4:1
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O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer.

"By Time, indeed, Mankind is in loss, Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience."
[Qur'an, Al-Asr 103]
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Prophet's Marriage Sermon

(with notes and supplications by Abdul Malik Mujahid)

Prophet Muhammad taught the following Khutba (sermon) for Nikah (the marriage ceremony). Allah's peace and blessings be upon him. (Ibn Masood narrated it as reported in Tirmithi, may Allah be pleased with him)

Innal Hamda lillahi, nastaeenuhu wa nastaghfirhu, wa naoozu billahi min shorrori anfusina. Man yahdihi Allahu fala mudhilla lahu wa mayn yudhlil fa la hadia lah. Wa ash hadu al la ilaha il lal lah wa ash hadu an na Muhammadan abduhu wa rasooluhu.

All praises are for Allah. We seek Guidance and forgiveness from Him. We also seek refuge in Him from the evils of our ownselves. Whoever Allah guides, noone can misguide him. Whoever He lets go astray noone can put him back on track. We testify that there is no god but Allah and we testify that Muhammad is Allah's servant and His messenger.

After this initial statement, the Prophet would recite the following verses from the Quran:



Believers! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and see that you do not die save in the state of submission to Allah. (Quran 3:102)



O men! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single being and out of it created its mate; and out of the two spread many men and women. Fear Allah in Whose name you plead for rights, and heed the ties of kinship. Surely, Allah is ever watchful over you. (Quran 4:1)



O believers, fear Allah and say the right thing. Allah will make your conduct (affairs) whole and sound and will overlook your errors. Whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed attained to a great success. (Quran 33:70-71)

Explanation: There are several principles, which these verses present:

  1. By asking for Taqwa four times in these verses, Allah is clearly setting the principles on which a sound and stable family life can be established. The Prophet felt it was important to exhort the marrying believers to fear God and to avoid courting His displeasure whenever he gave a marriage sermon. Allah's mercy and blessings be upon him.
  2. Taqwa is an important Arabic term with no clear equivalent in English. It is translated as piety, Allah consciousness, fear of Allah, Mindfulness of Allah, Living a life which follows Allah's guidance.
  3. Marrying individuals who are mindful of Allah (who have Taqwa), are more conscious of their Creator, stay away from what He has prohibited, and enjoin what He has recommended are more likely to be good to each other and successful in marriage.
  4. Taqwa (piety) is not just reflected in worship and Halal (permissible) types of marriage. It also requires clear communication between the spouses. This is the reason that immediately after asking believers for Taqwa, Allah is asking them to adopt proper speech by saying only the right thing.
  5. Proper communication is rewarding in this world in that Allah will make your affairs right.
  6. Proper communication will also be rewarded by Allah on the Day of Judgment, when He will also forgive our shortcomings in the hereafter because of it.
  7. By reminding us that He has created us, Allah is telling us that He knows what is in our best interests.
  8. It is also recognized that all human beings have sprung from the same root and that all of them are, therefore, of one another's flesh and blood.
  9. By mentioning the process of creation, Allah is bringing in focus the purpose of marriage, and indicating that by marrying each other, we are becoming part of the sacred process of creation that Allah has set up.
  10. Quran does not recognize any marriage that is not between a man and a woman.
  11. Verse [4:1] is not just for Muslims only because Allah is addressing all of humanity. While Muslims are one brotherhood, this is part of a larger brotherhood of humanity. However, it is the duty of Muslims to serve Allah as a model servants of humanity.
  12. At the time of marriage through these verses, the Prophet also asked marrying Muslims and the attending audience to attend to their relatives. This is the reason there are rights and duties of Muslims towards their relatives even if they are non-Muslims.
  13. However, the only criterion of preference, Taqwa, is not measurable by human beings. Indeed Allah is the One Who knows and is aware of everything so we should leave even this criterion to Allah to decide instead of human beings judging each other.

Dua:

Let's think of our best moments with our Creator and our loving moments with His creation as we all pray for these newly married servants of Allah.

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All praise is to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. We ask for His forgiveness, seek His aid, and ask Him for guidance. We seek refuge in Allah from the evil that is in ourselves, and from the evil of our actions. Whomever Allah guides, none can send astray, and whomever Allah sends astray, none can guide. We testify that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah, alone and without partner. And, we testify that Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) is His slave and messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, his family, his companions and the rightly guided predecessors until the Last Day. Ameen.

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We claim no affiliation with, and do not support, any sect or political ideology which deviates from the above principals - in belief or practice.

We ask Allah (Most Exalted is He) to accept our efforts which we do only in seeking His absolute pleasure and we ask His forgiveness for any mistakes we have made, due to our lack of knowledge or ignorance.

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Sayings of Prophet Muhammad

may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him

Marriage

Marriage encouraged
Hadrat 'Abdallah ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "Young men, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality but those who cannot, should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire." (Bukhari and Muslim)

Marry the pious
Hadrat Abu Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "A woman may be married for four reasons; for her property, her rank, her beauty and her religion, so get the one who is religious and prosper." (Bukhari and Muslim)

Virtues of a good wife
Hadrat Abu Umama (may Allah be pleased with him) said that Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) used to say, "After fear of Allah, a believer gains nothing better for himself than a good wife who obeys him if he gives her a command, pleases him if he looks at her, is true to him if he adjures her to do something and is sincere towards him regarding her person and his property if he is absent." (ibn Majah)

Marriage fulfils half of the religion
Hadrat Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Prophet Muhammad (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) as saying, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half." (Bayhaqi)

http://www.iqra.net/Hadith/marriage.php

Marriage of Believers

Men and women have been designed in detail by Allah to be suitable companions for one another at both emotional and physical levels. This is truly a sign of Allah's existence because in no way can this have come about without the intelligent design of a creator. More elaborately, male and female variations observed at both physical and mental levels are so intricately matched that suitable unions results in the completion of the needs of both the man and woman, it provides complete psychological and physiological support for one another - in essence, it completes an individual since Allah created human beings as male and female so that an opposite gender can complete it. Allah has truly been kind to mankind by making a man attractive for a woman and a woman attractive for a man. Allah asks us to consider this and asks believers to be appreciative to Him for making for them spouses for love and support:

http://www.quranicpath.com/quranicpath/marriage.html

Blessed Marriage

The Bride's Consent Before Marriage

 

Prophetic Hadiths:

 

"A non-virgin should not be given in marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission. The people asked, O Allah’s Messenger! How can we know her permission? He said, Her silence (indicates her permission).

[Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

Khansa Bint Khaddam al­-Ansariyyah reports that her father gave her in marriage when she was a non-virgin and she disliked that marriage. So she went to the Prophet (pbuh) and he declared that the marriage invalid.”

[Narrated by Al-Bukhari]

 

    Ibn 'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reports,

"Once there was a girl who came to the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) complaining. She said, My father has married me off to his nephew to elevate himself". Thereupon, the Prophet (pbuh) gave her the choice. She said", I accept what my father has done. But I wanted that women should know that fathers cannot compel them into marriage.[1]

[Reported by Ibn Majah and Ahmad]

 

 

The Woman’s Right to Marry a Suitable Match of Her Choice

 

Qur’anic Verses:

 

{When ye divorce women, and they fulfill the term of their (`iddat), do not prevent them from marrying their (former) husbands, if they mutually agree on equitable terms. This instruction is for all amongst you, who believe in Allah and the Last Day. That is (the course making for) most virtue and purity amongst you. And Allah knows, and ye know not.}

[Al-Baqarah: 232]

 

 

Prophetic Handiths:

 

Al-Hassan ibn Ma’qil ibn Yasar related that he gave his sister to one of the Muslims in marriage. When she stayed a period of time with him, he divorced her. He did not take her back until she fulfilled her due waiting period (`iddat). Then both he and Al­-Khattab betrothed her. She accepted to go back to him. When he asked her hand from Ma’qil, he got angry and said, When I honoured you by marrying her, you divorced her. By Allah, you will not take her back

Al-Hasan said, Allah knows the man’s need to his wife and the woman’s need     too. Consequently, Allah revealed the above verse. When Ma’qil heard it he said all obedience to my Lord. He then called her husband and said, I marry you her in marriage and honour you.[2]

[Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

 

 

The Presentation of Ones Daughter (for Marriage) to a Religious Man

 

Qur’anic verses:

 

{And when he arrived at the watering (place) in Madyan, He found there a group of men watering (their flocks). And besides them he found two women who were keeping back (their flocks). He said: What is the matter with you? They said: We cannot water (our flocks), until the shepherds take back (their flocks): And our father is a very old man. So he watered (their flocks) for them; then he turned back to the shade, and said: O my Lord! Truly am I in (desperate) need of any good that Thou dost send me! Afterwards one of the (damsels) came (back) to him, walking bashfully. She said: My father invites thee that he may reward thee for having watered (our flocks) for us. So when he came to him and narrated the story, he said: Fear thou not: (well) hast thou escaped from unjust people. Said one of the (damsels): O my (dear) father! Engage him on wages: truly the best of men for thee to employ is the man who is strong and trusty. He said: I intend to wed one of these my daughters to thee, on condition that thou serve me for eight years; but if thou complete ten years, it will be (grace) from thee. But I intend not to place thee under the difficulty: thou wilt find me, indeed, if Allah wills, one of the righteous. He said: Be that (the agreement) between me and thee: whichever of the two terms I fulfill, let there be no injustice to me. Be Allah a witness to what we say.}[3]

 

Prophetic Hadiths:

 

'Umar ibn Al-Khattab said, When Hafsa bint 'Umar became a widow after the death of her (husband) Khunais ibn Shuraiq As-Sahmi who had been one of the companions of the Prophet (pbuh) and he died at Madina I went to Uthman ibn 'Affan and presented Hafsa (for marriage) to him. He said, I will think it over. I waited for a few days, then he met me and said, It seems that it is not possible for me to marry at present.      'Umar further said, I met Abu Bakr As-­Siddiq and said to him, If you wish, I will marry my daughter Hafsa to you. Abu Bakr kept quiet and did not say anything to me in reply. I became angrier with him than with `Uthman. I waited for a few days and then Allah’s Messenger asked for her hand, and I gave her in marriage to him. Afterwards I met Abu Bakr who said, Perhaps you became angry with me when you presented Hafsa to me and I did not give you a reply? I said, Yes. Abu Bakr said, Nothing stopped me to respond to your offer except that I knew that Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) had mentioned her, and I never wanted to let out the secret of Allah’s Messenger (pbuh). And if Allah’s Messenger had refused her, I would have accepted her.

[Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

 

The Bride's Dowry

 

Prophetic Hadith:

 

"Blessed is a woman whose engagement and dowry are easy".

Reported by Ahmad and Al-Nisa i]

 

"Once a woman came to the Prophet (pbuh) and said, "I dedicate myself to you (for marriage)." She stayed for a long period of time, then a man said, "O Messenger of Allah! If you do not want her, marry me to her". The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, "What do you have to give as a dowry'?” I have nothing but Izar (waist sheet). The man replied. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "If you give her your Izar, you will have no Izar to wear, so find something (else).” He said, "I have nothing." The Prophet (pbuh) said, "(Try to) find (something) even if (it is) a ring of iron." But the man went back with nothing. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Do you memorize something of the Qur'an'? The man said, "Yes, I memorize such and such and        named       some surahsThen The Prophet (pbuh) said, “I gave you to each other in marriage for what you memorize of the Qur'an.

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

 

"Abu Salama related that he asked, ‘Aisha (may  Allah be pleased with her), How much did the Prophet (pbuh) give as a dowry? She said, "The dowry which the Prophet (pbuh) gave to his wives was only twelve uqiyyahs and a nash. She said, Do you know the amount of nash'? I said, No She said, It equals a halfuqiyyah. I said this five hundred dirhams

[Reported by Muslim]

 

Ibn 'Abbas also related,

"When `Ali got married to Fatimah, the Prophet (pbuh) asked him to give her anything, but `Ali said, I have nothing to give. The Prophet said, "Where is your mantle (which is called Al-Hutamiyyah'?

[Narrated by Abu Dawud and An-Nasa’i]

 

Anas reported that when Abu Talhah betrothed Umm Salim, she said, By Allah, no one can reject the like of you, but you are an atheist and I am a Muslim woman. I am not allowed to marry you. My dowry is to embrace Islam, nothing else. When he entered Islam, she married him and that was her dowry.

'Umar (may    Allah be     pleased with him) admonished the People by saying, Do not exaggerate in women’s dowry. Were it a virtue in the worldly life or a devotion in the sight of Allah, the Prophet (pbuh) would do it. Then he said,” I have never known that the Prophet (pbuh) gave more than twelve uqiyyahs as a dowry to his wives likewise he received the same amount when marrying off his daughters.

[Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ahmad]

 

“'Ali ibn Abu Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) said, The Prophet (pbuh) gave Fatima (may Allah be pleased with her) a pillow of straw as furniture

 

 

A Proposal of Marriage

 

There was a man of the companions who dedicated himself to the Prophet’s service. He used to spend the nights near the Prophet (pbuh) to serve him. The Prophet (pbuh) asked him, Would not you like to marry? He said, I am a poor man. In addition, I may stop serving you. Another time the Prophet asked him the same question and the man repeated the same answer.

The man reflected on the Prophet’s Words and said, The Prophet (pbuh) surely knows what is better for me in this worldly life and the next. He decided that if the Prophet (pbuh) asked him to marry again he would agree.

When the Prophet (pbuh) asked him to marry for the third time, he said, O Messenger of Allah, may you marry me (to whomever you like)? Thereupon the Prophet (pbuh) said, You would better go to the family of such and such and tell them that the Prophet (pbuh) asks the hands of Your daughter to me. The man said, I do not have anything (to pay as dowry). Then the Prophet (pbuh) said to his companions, Give your brother gold equal to a date stone in weight. After hey had collected the gold they Went to the bride’s family and they agreed. His companions, then, gave him a goat for the wedding banquet.

[Reported by Ahmad]

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4) O ye who believe! stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest ye swerve, and if ye distort (justice) or decline to do justice, verily Allah is well- acquainted with all that ye do.  
(  سورة النساء  , An-Nisa, Chapter 
#4, Verse #135)
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(16) O ye who believe! stand out firmly for Allah, as witnesses to fair dealing, and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just: that is next to piety: and fear Allah. For Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do.  
(  سورة المائدة  , Al-Maeda, Chapter 
#5, Verse #8)
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(17) The word of thy Lord doth find its fulfilment in truth and in justice: None can change His words: for He is the one who heareth and knoweth all.  
(  سورة الأنعام  , Al-Anaam, Chapter 
#6, Verse #115)
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(18) Say: "Come, I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": Join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents; kill not your children on a plea of want;- We provide sustenance for you and for them;- come not nigh to shameful deeds. Whether open or secret; take not life, which Allah hath made sacred, except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you, that ye may learn wisdom.  
(  سورة الأنعام  , Al-Anaam, Chapter 
#6, Verse #151)
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